What do you think about when you think about “home improvement?” Do you think about your physical space? Or, instead, do you think about your mental state? Is your home where you live, or is it your spiritual center, your psyche?
One of my goals this year is to get my “house” in order, and by that I mean, my personal self. Every year, many of us make lots of resolutions with high hopes we will at least get through January accomplishing whatever it is we set out to do. We do a lot of looking forward; we don’t tend to look behind for what we’ve done in the past. But it’s the past that informs the future and the past (or the past actions) that leads to the need to change.
Maybe we overindulged and packed on a few pounds. Maybe we got so busy with our family’s activities that we forgot to take care of ourselves. Maybe we made horrible life choices at some point and now are facing the consequences. Regardless, we all have the capacity to change, we just have to be willing to do so. Sometimes, the way is rocky and the water cold, but the end goal is worth it. Are you ready to take the plunge?
The start of the new year brings with it a new slate and new resolutions. What are yours? In looking back, did you accomplish what you wanted to in 2017? Are there any goals and resolutions you “outgrew”? What are your plans for the future?
Today is about reflecting on what comes next. Where do you want to be? What do you want for the future? What are your dreams?
How you frame things does matter. I had a boss once who told the rest of the staff and me to never come to him with problems. Now, you might be thinking that is foolish since not solving “problems” can lead to poor decisions and no transparency. Entirely the opposite was true because that boss didn’t see problems in the same way most people did. He saw them as challenges. Instead of problems, he saw opportunities. Instead of saying to him, “We have a problem,” we would instead phrase it as “We have a unique opportunity to [fill in the blank].” By reframing the situation, the negative becomes positive.
What opportunities do you have in your life right now for development?
Me? I’m working on a new degree, a new business, and a healthier living plan. One thing I’m going to try to do is a photo a day here on the blog. What about you?
By viewing ourselves as works in progress, we multiply our capacity to learn, avoid being pigeonholed, and ultimately become better leaders.
— Herminia Ibarra
Temporary from the Latin temporārius and tempus, tempor meaning time, describes something that is fleeting. Our lives are temporary, although we don’t view them that way until we are staring into the abyss of our own mortality. This past month we have been starkly reminded of just how temporary life is. It can be gone in the blink of an eye either through sudden illness, horrific accidents, or unbelievably while worshipping in a sacred space on a Sunday morning.
I can’t make sense of what happened in Sutherland Springs, Texas; I don’t think any of us can unless we’ve lived through a massacre like that. What I can do is pray for that community and all involved as well as for our country and our lawmakers deciding what to do in the aftermath of this horror.
Vietnam War Memorial, Christmas